Help Kids Express

Have you ever had a hard time pinpointing exactly how you’re feeling? If it can be tough for grown-ups, imagine how hard it can be for kids to express how they feel, especially if they don’t have the words. When a child or teen is having trouble expressing themselves, using “I wonder” statements can help them get curious about what they’re feeling. It helps them take a moment to think about what they’re feeling and label their feelings without us assuming or telling them how they feel.

 

So, how do you use “I wonder” statements in a conversation? If your child says they’re upset, try saying, “When you say you’re ‘upset,’ I don’t know exactly what you mean. I wonder if you’re feeling sad or embarrassed. Are either of those right?” By communicating in this way, we’re teaching new feelings words and giving kids a chance to label their specific feeling. Even if what you suggested isn’t right, it encourages them to think about what they’re feeling and gives them a chance to clarify. Remember: Whatever they feel is real and valid. 
 
Need more tips for helping kids identify and express their feelings? We’ve got you covered.